Do you sometimes feel that your loving gestures are not seen by the other person? Or even that you receive too little affection? Perhaps you both speak different languages of love.

Ayla comes home after work and quickly unloads her things to enjoy the evening on the sofa with José. José, however, has spent a long time tidying up the flat today to please Ayla and is now annoyed that Ayla's things are scattered around the flat. Instead of paying attention to Ayla, he withdraws and hangs on his mobile phone. Ayla is furious about this, as she was in a great hurry to get home so that she could spend the evening together. Both feel that the other does not value what they have done for each other.

The relieving answer is: neither of them has done anything wrong. Instead, it shows that we communicate love for each other differently. The relationship counselor Gary Chapman first described this communication obstacle in his book "The Five Love Languages" in 1992. These are five different ways in which we show our love and conversely interpret the love of the other person.

- If you express your love in the language of praise and recognition, it could read like this, for example: I just wanted to ask how you are, have a nice day! Verbal affection is an important expression of love.
- The language of togetherness is revealed when an evening is set aside just for the other, the mobile phone is put aside and undivided attention is given and received. Shared experiences are the key to love in this situation.
- Showing your love through thoughtful gifts does not mean that you are a materialist. Rather, it means that you are thinking about what you can do to please the other person.
- Do you like to show your love through sensual affection? In the language of physical tenderness, this can be a massage after a long day and it can do more than the spoken "I love you".
- In the language of helpfulness, you like to take action to make your love clear: The bicycle is pumped up or the dishes are washed. Here, too, action is more important than words.


If you express your love in the language of praise and recognition, it could read like this, for example: I just wanted to ask how you are, have a nice day! Verbal affection is an important expression of love.
The language of togetherness is revealed when an evening is set aside just for the other, the mobile phone is put aside and undivided attention is given and received. Shared experiences are the key to love in this situation.
Showing your love through thoughtful gifts does not mean that you are a materialist. Rather, it means that you are thinking about what you can do to please the other person.
Do you like to show your love through sensual affection? In the language of physical tenderness, this can be a massage after a long day and it can do more than the spoken "I love you".
In the language of helpfulness, you like to take action to make your love clear: The bicycle is pumped up or the dishes are washed. Here, too, action is more important than words.

Communication in love is not always easy. But if you find the right words, it can contribute a lot to the health of the relationship

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