‍**Long-distance relationships can pose challenges for lovers. The longing for closeness, physical desires, but also communication are put to the test. But long-distance relationships can also be beautiful.**

Sara is worried about the future of their relationship. Max has no choice but to move to Sri Lanka for at least a year. But Sara can't leave Germany - she has an employment contract that binds her for another year. Besides, she loves her job! What can the two of them do to make their relationship work even from afar?

Long-distance relationship: The rules are (almost) the same
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First of all, very similar principles apply to long-distance relationships as to couples who have no physical distances between them. The basic pillar is to take care of the health of the relationship. This includes striving for a good culture of conversation, being open with each other, expressing one's love both physically and through words, integrating conflicts and arguments, and also sharing tasks.

This is not new territory for Sara and Max. They have been together for some time and have learned, for example, to master their relationship interdependently. The language of love is also not a foreign language for either of them. So they already know from experience how to keep their relationship healthy. And relationship health is elementary. For long-distance relationships as well as for traditional relationships! Because according to studies, satisfaction with communication is one of the most important indicators of a happy relationship. But how can the two of them keep it going even from a distance?

Not only for exchanging information: Video chat
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One of the great achievements of technology is certainly that we can send information around the globe within a very short time - in the form of words, pictures and speech. This is also a huge advantage for a long-distance relationship. Hurray for video telephony! But couples who use video telephony for their long-distance relationship may have to rethink this a little.

Because video telephony is a great way to switch up everyday life together. Thanks to Zoom and Co, Sara and Max can cook, read, laugh, watch series, eat, drink, have sex and even fall asleep together! The only important thing is that they have the right timing. A bit of organisational talent is needed here, especially for longer distances, due to possible time differences.

It is especially important at this point that people in a long-distance relationship find things they like to do together. It is best to arrange to meet at fixed times that both look forward to and that do not put:n in time stress. This creates a form of connection that can also overcome long distances.

Long-distance relationship? For sure!
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A secure attachment is the basic prerequisite for a healthy relationship. This is because people with a secure attachment style have much more time and muse to give the other person the necessary space and trust.

And those who can commit themselves securely can also master conflicts. And that is also important in a long-distance relationship.

Sure, at a distance it's tempting not to bring up difficult topics or to leave them out. After all, you only have so much time together! But in the long run this will not work. The conflicts will increase if they are not discussed, and at some point things may come to a head. It's better to find the time and courage to talk about it - even if it's at the next live meeting! Because even conflicts can weld people together, especially if you find solutions or compromises together.

A look into the future
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Perhaps the most important thing in a long-distance relationship is to make plans together. If both have something to look forward to, it helps enormously. Especially in moments of loneliness, perhaps also of doubt, both can then look forward to the next meeting together, perhaps even the reunion. Here it is important to talk together about wishes, fears and hopes.

For Sara and Max, the matter is clear: they will meet twice within the year and spend the holidays together. And at the latest when Max is finished with his project, he will come back to Germany.

You live in a long-distance relationship but are slowly reaching your limits? Or maybe you are facing a spatial separation that you are afraid of? Book a trial session with one of our coaches and talk to us about it!
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Long-distance relationships put love to the test. But they can also work, even have advantages. We just have to know how.

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Greetings from afar: How long-distance relationships can work